So, there’s a shake-up happening in your life and you’re uncomfortable. A high-level work project you led turns out successful, yet your colleague is being praised for the final leg. A friend ditched you and an unexpected scroll through IG is how you got notice. Your partner pulls away for days and returns with a text message “Grandma died”, seeking emotional support. Or maybe you’ve just been having “blah” days. Whatever, your uncomfortable story is I promised it’s tied to the fact that you haven’t acted in alignment with your values.
Take inventory on what your values are.
Your values are the things that you believe are foundational in the way you move through life.
Its’ important that you know what your values are as they determine what your life priorities, goals, and actions are. Most likely, your values are how you measure yourself and the progress of your life.
Create a list of what actions align to your values.
Knowing what actions support your values will help you identify moments when they aren’t in alignment. If you are someone who values transparency and your partner is closed off for a period of time or YOU close off, then the action went against your value. And feeling uncomfortable about this makes sense. How you respond, determines whether or not your values are a priority.
Be open to choosing actions that align to your values.
Making an intentional effort to act in alignment with your values will support you with obtaining the life you want. If you value balance and you’ve been working 25 hours a day for weeks with no reprieve for your value, then you are creating a space that will result in you being uncomfortable.
Be willing to communicate your values.
We all don’t carry the same values. Hence, its vital that you not only act in alignment with your values, but you hold yourself accountable to sharing explicitly what your values are. Knowing someone’s values helps to consider how we can interact with someone or whether we even want to interact.
Do you know what your values are?